If you are happy for me to be in your home, then I am happy to be there.
I usually stay with the family during my visit. Occasionally that is not appropriate and I organise local accommodation.
More often than not, parents will simply tell their children that they have a friend coming to stay. I fit in with that, sitting and chatting or joining in with whatever activities are planned.
This is a very common concern. I am always aware that, certainly at the beginning of my visit, everyone will be acting slightly differently. However I know exactly what I am looking for and even if everyone is on their best behaviour, I can always spot the issues. It is my job to see what I need to – often the things that parents are missing.
Firstly, each family is different and there is no ‘usually’. My role is to identify the root causes of your problems and build with you the strategies necessary to tackle them. It is often a case of changing parenting habits which in turn have an effect on children’s habits. For behaviours to change and become embedded for the long term might perhaps take 5-8 weeks. Nonetheless, there is almost always some discernible improvement over the course of my visit. To keep you on track I am at the other end of the phone for as long as you need me.
Yes, absolutely. Whilst consistency is important and certainly helpful, it is still possible for me to work with one parent to tackle the issues arising when the children are with them.